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Christy Le Lait

I so enjoyed spending time with Joe at Lakeside. He is missed.

Kevin Jirak

Joe was at first a schoolmate and fellow sailor at SUNY Maritime with me. Years later we became professional colleagues. That grew into a wonderful working relationship. I was introduced to his loving wife and family as we started to work to together more closely. Joe then became a very giving mentor for me at a time when I needed it. He was a true friend. He was very knowledgeable and generously shared his wisdom and time with me. His love for his family was easy to see. I will miss Joe. The knowledge he gave me and memories we shared will never be forgotten. FWE Joe.

Patricia Badolato Fallon

Joe and I grew up in same neighborhood and attended Resurrection Grammar School in Rye. I remember him as being serious and jovial at the same time. I was sad to read of his passing but glad he had such a rich and interesting life. I send my sincere condolences to his family.

Ashley Calhoun

I had the pleasure of meeting Joe and becoming one of his caregivers about 2 years ago. He was the sweetest man. It was my pleasure to have known such a man. His wife Marianne was second to none. The love and devotion she showed for him was unlike anything I've ever seen. My heart and my prayers go out to the Cotter family. A great man has been lost and will truly be missed.

Anthony Venuti

So many good people gone.We were classmates at Stepinac.I know he is in a better world now,\God bless you and all your family.Rest in peace my friend.You will be missed but never forgotten.

Fred Crane

JJJoe was a friend to me in High school. We lost a kind hearted mam in his passing Rest in Peace

Bill Hoeler

A very good man. RIP Joe.

Dan Curran


Rich and Debbie Salerno

Debbie and I are saddened by your loss. Joe was a good guy. A real gentleman.

Mike and Susan Leahy

It is sad news to hear of the passing of our friend and my long-time colleague. A man of exceptional integrity, intelligence, knowledge and loyalty; it was a blessing to know and to work with Joe. Our sincere condolences to Marianne and the children. He has left a legacy of family and dear friends to honor his memory.

Harry Rogers

A classmate, a colleague and a loyal friend. Joe will be missed.


I remember the day I met Mr Joe and his beautiful wife Marianne walk into the room. His is beautiful family.... If I remember correctly there was a black and white cookie from Nana Theresas involved at some point that day!! He always lit up when he saw his beautiful wife. He alaways had a bit of a grin on him and hug that would make anyone feel special!! He will be missed on this earth and may God surround you all with love and peace. It was and Honor to know him and his beautiful family!!

Joseph Thomas Cotter


Joseph Thomas Charles Cotter was born on May 20, 1955 in New York City to John Jerome and Theresa Anne Cotter. Joseph grew up in the Bronx and Rye, New York.
Joseph met the love of his life, Marianne McIntyre while working on the Stepinac stage at age fifteen. Marianne and Joseph were married on January 23, 1976 at Sacred Heart Chapel in Yonkers, New York. Joseph graduated from Archbishop Stepinac High School in White Plains and SUNY Maritime (Fort Schuyler). Joseph was a proud member of the SUNY Maritime Alumni Association.
Joseph was a trained Naval Architect and Marine Engineer, traveling the world on Container ships, RO/RO ships, and with the Maritime Pre-Positioning Force. Joseph enjoyed spending time with his family, sailing and playing with his grand-babies.
Joseph is survived by his wife, Marianne, children Thomas (Coryann) of Grosse Pointe, Michigan, Catherine of White Plains, New York, Megan of Bardonia, New York and Erin (Daniel) Spana of Fernandina Beach, Florida and grandchildren Natalie, Caleb, Emma, Charles and Teagan and many, many family and friends.
Memorial services will be held at a later time.
Donations in his memory may be to the Maritime Industry Museum at Fort Schuyler Museum, 6 Pennyfield Avenue, Bronx, New York 10465.
Oxley-Heard Funeral Directors