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Marilyn Kay Gilder


Marilyn Kay Gilder, 73, of Fernandina Beach, FL passed away Wednesday, December 2, 2020 at Osprey Village surrounded by her husband, Frank, and her daughter, Lauren after an eight month battle with glioblastoma.

Kay was born in New Albany, IN and was raised in Frankfort, KY. Her father was an Air Force officer and her mother, a nurse. As a teenager, she traveled extensively with them.

She graduated high school in Boston, MA and entered the School of Radiologic Technology at Massachusetts General Hospital. After her father was assigned to a posting in Southeast Asia she returned home to Frankfort and finished her training in Lexington, KY and then took a position at a local hospital.

While attending a professional meeting in New Orleans in 1971 she met a fellow, Frank Gilder from Atlanta. After a year of long distance courtship and romance and while at another professional meeting in Denver, Frank talked her into marriage. Frank helped her move to Atlanta and assisted her with finding a job there. In November 1972 they were wed.

Kay went to work at Emory University Hospital, in the Cardiac Cath Lab. While there she was fortunate to have the opportunity to work with Dr. Andreas Gruntzig, the cardiologist who was instrumental in developing balloon angioplasty of the coronary arteries.

For her dedication to the X-Ray and Imaging profession she was awarded lifetime membership in both the Atlanta and Georgia Society of Radiologic Technology.

Upon retiring in 1999 Kay and Frank moved to Amelia Island to be near Frank's brother and sister. Kay and Frank became active in a local dance club and enjoyed taking cruises and other travel adventures.

She leaves behind her husband, John Frank Gilder of Fernandina Beach; a beautiful daughter, Lauren (Joe) Perkins of Woodstock, GA; her step-sons, John (Bo) Gilder of Norfolk, VA and Jeff (Genie) Gilder of Alpharetta, GA. Kay and Frank have seven grandchildren, Ryan, Molly and Riley Perkins of Woodstock, GA, Griffin and Grayson Gilder of of Alpharetta, GA, Megan and Hailey Gilder of Norfolk, VA and a great granddaughter, Caroline.

Kay's family will receive friends Saturday, December 5, 2020 from 2:00 until 4:00 PM at Oxley-Heard Funeral Directors in Fernandina Beach. On Monday, December 7, 2020 the family will receive friends from 12:00 PM until 2:00 PM at Wages and Sons Funeral Home, 1040 Main St., Stone Mountain, GA 30083. A graveside funeral service will follow at Melwood Cemetery in Stone Mountain at 2:30 PM.

In her memory, the family asks that donations be made to St. Michael's Catholic Church in Fernandina Beach.


Sally Whitmore December 24, 2020

My deepest sympathy to the family. I was with her when she met Frank and her maid of honor at their wedding. We spent time together throughout the years and I have many wonderful memories. We shared birthday celebrations seeing they were a day apart! I cherish my memories and she will be in my heart forever.

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